Today we answer the age-old question: how to talk to your teen so they actually listen. Jeanine Mouchawar, Stanford-educated mom of three and life coach to parents of teens, helps make parenting easier by teaching new communication strategies that reduce conflict and create calm.
In this episode we discuss…
- Why the way we used to communicate with our child does not work when they become teens
- Expecting your own transition while your child experiences transition
- How to talk so your teen will listen
- Why it might feel like you are lecturing all the time
- Helping your child feel ready and capable for high school and beyond
- Why it is important to let your child fail
- The strategy of engage – connect- cooperate
- How to engage your child in communication
- Managing your own emotions when talking to your teen (or in advance if you need to)
- Objectively sharing without tone, judgment, and emotion
- The importance of connection with your teen, even when you think they don’t want to connect with you
- Getting curious with your teen instead of giving a directive
- Using a “what” question with unacceptable behaviors
- How to talk to your teen so they actually listen
- Validating the way your teen feels so know you understand them
- Showing your teen you are on their side
- Helping your teen find their own solutions instead of telling them what to do
- Focusing on solutions instead of punishments
- Partnering with your child instead of being exhausted by doing it all
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Show Notes: How to Talk to Your Teen
Hey, hey friend! Welcome to Episode #135 of The Secrets of Supermom Show!
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If you are brand new to the show today, welcome! We are so happy you are here. And if you are a long-time listener, you know that my oldest is 13 years old and second is hot on her heels at 12. Today’s topic was super exciting for me because it is exactly perfect timing as we navigate new ways of communicating with our teen and preteens.
Our guest today is Jeanine Mouchawar, Stanford-educated mom of three and life coach to parents of teens. She helps make parenting easier by teaching new communication strategies that reduce conflict and create calm.
Parents learn how to teach their teens cooperation, responsibility, and critical life skills to empower them for success. In the process, they create the positive, meaningful relationship they always imagined.
I am excited to introduce you to Jeanine!
Today we discuss…
- Why the way we used to communicate with our child does not work when they become teens
- Expecting your own transition while your child experiences transition
- How to talk so your teen will listen
- Why it might feel like you are lecturing all the time
- Helping your child feel ready and capable for high school and beyond
- Why it is important to let your child fail
- The strategy of engage – connect- cooperate
- How to engage your child in communication
- Managing your own emotions when talking to your teen (or in advance if you need to)
- Objectively sharing without tone, judgment, and emotion
- The importance of connection with your teen, even when you think they don’t want to connect with you
- Getting curious with your teen instead of giving a directive
- Using a “what” question with unacceptable behaviors
- How to talk to your teen so they actually listen
- Validating the way your teen feels so know you understand them
- Showing your teen you are on their side
- Helping your teen find their own solutions instead of telling them what to do
- Focusing on solutions instead of punishments
- Partnering with your child instead of being exhausted by doing it all
Are you interested in finding out more about Jeanine Mouchawar?
https://www.instagram.com/jeaninemouchawarcoaching/
https://www.facebook.com/jeaninemouchawarcoaching/
https://www.tiktok.com/@jeaninemouchawarcoaching
About Our Guest: Jeanine Mouchawar
by teaching new communication strategies that reduce conflict and create calm. Parents learn how to teach their teens cooperation, responsibility, and critical life skills to empower them for success. In the process, they create the positive, meaningful relationship they always imagined.
Jeanine earned her B.A. from Stanford University and is a certified professional life coach. She is married and has 3 adult children.
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About the Host: Lori Oberbroeckling
Lori Whitney Oberbroeckling is a mom of four, corporate leader, podcaster, productivity expert, and author of the book Secrets of Supermom: How Extraordinary Moms Succeed at Work and Home & How You Can Too!
She is passionate about helping parents who want fulfilling careers–or side hustles or passion projects–while also wanting to feel present and connected to their families.
