If you’ve ever looked at your calendar and thought, “None of this is for me”, you are not alone, friend.
In this episode of The Secrets of Supermom Show, we’re talking about how to take back control of your calendar—because when your time feels out of your hands, so does your balance, energy, and joy. Whether it’s your boss, your kids, your clients, or your volunteer commitments, the more your schedule belongs to everyone but you, the closer you inch toward burnout.
But here’s the truth: you are allowed to protect your time. And you don’t need a fancy planner to do it—just a few intentional mindset shifts, some simple strategies, and a bit of practice.
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Show Notes: How to Stop Letting Everyone Else Control Your Calendar
Hey, hey friend! Welcome to Episode #231 of The Secrets of Supermom Show!
🎙️ Do you feel like you’re juggling a thousand things and still not getting it all done? You listen to podcast after podcast trying to find the best way, but it feels like you must be doing something wrong. If you could just find the perfect schedule or the perfect planner, you could unlock the secret. What if I told you that you can do it all, without actually doing it all?
Inside The Supermom Society–our private community designed just for busy moms like you–we get it.
Every week, together, we help you create a plan that feels both productive and doable. Every month, we help you create a solid plan to boost your energy, sharpen your time management skills, and connect you with other moms who are ready to beat burnout for good.Being a mom is tough, but you don’t have to do it alone. Today is your day to join us in The Supermom Society! Visit www.thesupermomsociety.com for all the details. I can’t wait to see you inside!” 🎙
Why Calendar Control Matters for Moms
When your calendar is out of control, you likely feel:
- Overwhelmed by constant obligations
- Disconnected from what brings you joy
- Resentful about saying “yes” to things you don’t really want to do
But when you feel in charge of your time, even a full calendar can feel balanced and energizing.
3 Mindset Shifts to Help You Take Back Your Calendar
Let’s start by tackling the mental roadblocks that might be keeping you stuck.
💭 Mindset Shift #1: Space Doesn’t Equal Availability
Just because your calendar shows white space doesn’t mean you’re free. That space might be the only time you have all day to breathe, think, or recharge.
👉 New belief: “I don’t owe my open time to anyone.”
💭 Mindset Shift #2: Saying No Isn’t Mean—It’s Respectful
Worried someone will be mad if you say no? Maybe—but often, they’re relieved you’re setting a clear boundary. Respecting your time teaches others to do the same.
👉 New belief: “Saying no builds trust and respect.”
💭 Mindset Shift #3: You’re Not Bad at Time Management—You’re Overcommitted
If you’ve been telling yourself you just need a better planner, consider this: you don’t need a new system—you need ownership of your time.
👉 New belief: “I can make small, powerful changes that protect my energy.”
4 Practical Tips to Reclaim Your Calendar
Mindset is just the start. Here are a few powerful actions you can take this week:
✅ 1. Audit Your Calendar
Look back at the past two weeks. What tasks energized you? What drained you? Did your time reflect your values?
Use this reflection to recognize what you want more of—and what needs to go.
✅ 2. Identify Your Non-Negotiables
Is movement important to your mental health? Do you need quiet time to think? Choose your top priorities and build your schedule around them, not the other way around.
✅ 3. Practice Weekly Planning
A weekly planning habit gives you awareness and choice. By looking ahead and reviewing behind, you make smarter decisions about where your time goes—and who gets it.
🎧 Want help starting a weekly planning habit? Check out the resources in The Supermom Society for guided support.
✅ 4. Prepare to Set Boundaries
If saying “no” is hard, don’t worry—help is on the way! Next week, Coach AnnJo joins us to share her 8-step formula for setting boundaries at work, home, and everywhere in between.
You Deserve a Calendar That Reflects Your Life—not Just Everyone Else’s
Friend, your time is yours. And while there will always be demands from others, you have the power to design a calendar that reflects your vision and values. It starts with a single shift, a single “no,” and a single decision to protect what matters most to you.
Start with one small change this week—and watch the ripple effects grow. You’ve got this.
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About the Host: Lori Oberbroeckling
Lori Whitney Oberbroeckling is a mom of four, corporate leader, podcaster, productivity expert, and author of the book Secrets of Supermom: How Extraordinary Moms Succeed at Work and Home & How You Can Too!
She is passionate about helping parents who want fulfilling careers–or side hustles or passion projects–while also wanting to feel present and connected to their families.
